Hello my friends welcome back to another exciting fun filled blog of procrastination, adventure, and probably nonsense.
So friends let us just dive right in here with somersaults and back flips like a pro diving Olympian. (thank fully no heights are involved)
So the title today, …I have had to re word it slightly, but metaphorically as the waves of life can battle us and how those waves can come, I thought it was a great array of describing words.
“Hold your shhh ip together”
I have spoken about vision boardsand goals in other posts, and it is always good to see a measure of someone by seeing what they actually do : again “walk the walk”
So here are a couple of mine. –
Be mortgage free.
I am in the process of selling my old family home that has tenants in. Whist it has paid a portion of one morgage off, it did not cover the rent of where I was living, which was a tiny place. 4 years ago I moved from a family home to follow my dream of :-
living by the sea. I put things in storage and I lived in a caravan (I think my american family would call it a “van” or a “trailer”) for a while until I could get a house. The beaches are beautiful, I see seals often in the wild, I kayak, I have owned a small boat.
I made this dream happen!
The rent was under the market value to support the struggling family who lived there and they had no rent rise in 7 years. Knowing what it is like to struggle, I wanted to help the family out.
The time has come to sell it and move on.
The sale of the house will make me MORTGAGE FREE
To be retired at the age of 40 – I currently work part time so I am semi retired – (I tell myself)
The reality is without a miracle or a lottery win or kind benefactor, I will not be retiring anytime soon, and even if I retired from my current job I would still be involved in unpaid charity work. – I am still working at being FINANCIALLY FREE
TO BE A WRITER
Always dreamed of writing. I used to write the odd poem, been known to write the odd story, but moving on…but more recently I wanted to start living this more. I joined a group who encouraged me to “Just write!” and so began.
5 months on.. I am now currently writing reviews, write and research for friends who need support. I am thinking about an e book. I write the occasional blog and poem. I have a novel in mind which is in early stages. – I am achieving but developing.
To own my own business – I am so far off this mark I am barely off the blocks but the fact is I am off the blocks so I am progressing very slowly with ideas and options.
SHARE SUCCESSES AND FAILURES
It is great when we succeed or can share our success stories, but it is also ok to fail, as by failure we learn to grow and develop and help others out.
I am not sharing my journey for any accolade or ego trip. I am writing these as a reminder for me but also to encourage you out there, who ever you are, whatever you do to keep hold of your dreams and missions and hold on to these during the rough seas.
It can be hard to “keep our ship” together but that is when we need to dig deep and hold on to our resources and hard work already done. I strongly believe that although sometimes we may think it is all for nothing, at some point things will click.
Let me share a quick story.
As I sat at inside an american eating place yesterday, a guy is over hearing me on the phone talking to my lawyer about my house sale, and starts yelling across the restaurant to talk to me, or rather tell me about his housing issues.
I invite the stranger over to sit with me, and then begins to tell me his life story of battles with is land lady trying to evict him, not doing things legally or by the book. Going on I learn about his medical issues, and family issues, not being able to see his kids, and battle with mental health and suicide.
By the end of our conversation we had talked about long term planning, goals, life survival skills, peer to peer support, tenant advice, and the guy thanked me for making him smile and giving him a sense of hope.
This my friends, is what I live for to help other human beings out, and so occasionally you may see a paypal link to my site so I can be available and support people, whether it is free counselling, mediation, practical support etc… jack of many trades, master of none.
I have many such instances like these. It is nice to know that the things I had worked hard for and even battled could help others.
Increase Income – I have picked up more shift work. While this is not ideal and hard work it brings in just enough to cover debts – money is out there, sometimes it is a matter of how much we want it and are prepared to do for it. (I am still thinking of signing up to be a “rent a friend” though ethically this still does not sit well with me personally. I believe it is possible to DOUBLE YOUR INCOME.
My Throne Room – I promised I would be opening up a “throne room” of resources. Please do go and check it out.
So my 5 TOP TIPS today as you go about your personal missions whatever they may be are to:
I am aiming at being debt free, but this is not enough, as I want to be financially free. It really feels like it is easy come easy go – more easy go:( just never enough to breathe!
I see the postman coming down the road and I think he has money for me- He has not!
I hand over my lottery ticket to the cashier hoping for a win – I do not!
I am entering free competitions in the hope I can win – I have not..
I upgrade my blog sites so I can somehow by magic monetize them – Not happening anytime soon.
Positive thinking has its limits, but keep going!
I am researching for a neon sign that says this is how you will make easy money. Hello google…. I have not found one yet that does not have a catch – could this be a Niche market?
So I know with bills to come out unless I can find some “hustles” as the Americans term it, I will begin to panic.
3 months ago I was over £2000.00 in debt, since then I have had to replace two cars, get out of being homeless, I have paid for two holidays and splashed out for birthday, a course on blogging and vlogging #Invest in yourself – basics – , a marketing course which was superb but again I could only afford the taster session.
The upgrades were out of my reach but I have to say , if you can get hold of any free taster sessions and you are interested in setting up businesses or marketing or just need fresh inspiration- I just want to say I learned more in one week than in a month. Sadly I am not on commission, or an affiliate, I wish I was, but I want people to succeed as much as I want to and free is still free.
This morning I roll out of bed without an alarm clock or three going off at six am. Don’t you just hate it when they go off?
I figure I can reach and put the kettle on. I put the online radio on, I turn my phone on and lap top and I am ready to start a different type of work as an online mentor.
There is an amazing feeling of knowing I don’t have to go “into work” I am not on shift, I don’t have to drive and face traffic, I don’t have those work pressures. it…is liberating!
Instead I am relaxed, reading and writing, listening and tasting. My senses are alive!!!
There are You tube videos of people just “living life to the full” appearing to have a care free life, freedom. It can be done if you know what you are doing, with the right tools and help. Maybe you are doing that already and seeing the benefits, feeling the freedom in life!
I would love to have a day or six like this every day, maybe mix it up with a walk along the beach, boating, gym (maybe not) and improve my health,my figure. but you know those things you always say you would like to do if you have more time, it would be amazing right, but I am discovering it is possible with the right mentors.
I continuously research more ways to make money, for myself and for others, whether that is saving or making money. It is great making money, allowing me to do the things I want to do, that interest me. I get to work-the-lifestyle-I want.
When I started out I had to do what I call a “self audit” of what my gifts and talents were, what I could do, what my interests were, even if it was playing games, watching you tube clips or the tv, there was money to be made in just those.
I have a day job, which I love, caring and supporting a small community of disabled adults who are more family really. I love enabling them to do things for themselves. It is so humbling and amazing. If I could, I would do this for free as a guest or visitor would be better.
It is not crazy thinking or any false claims, but I would love a job on my terms, no one to answer to, come and go as I please..now that’s living for me, does that actually exist? The answer is simply YES.
More and more people are realising they do not have to work harder or longer, but are learning to work smarter and at the same time still earning more. This is phenomenal!
I realised that just having a dream, but not knowing how to achieve it, is and was unfruitful and emotional. I couldn’t figure it out. I needed mentors and I found them and so grateful I did.
I would like to thank the SFM teamand community and my other online friends from across the country and in other countries in fact for opening my eyes and getting my creative juices flowing which is awesome in itself as I would never in a million years use me and the word creative together.
Now I am alive with ideas.
In your life whether it was a great relative, or teacher, or friend, whoever it is the right people in your life can make the difference!
I want to make a difference. Now I am thinking big, bigger, and I am seeing the difference happen before my eyes
I am learning new things, I have income streams, I am dreaming up websites and business ideas.
I believe education is important, but the best education is that which touches you and grabs you, same with training.
I have a huge mistrust of people and for good reasons – but there are really good folk out there.
I have learned that these so called “good folk” also need a lot of support and encouragement themselves. If I had a time machine I would go back and say thanks to those people.
I cannot do that to folk in the past, but I can do it to folk of the present because they will help shape my future and actually they may not know it but i will shape them too. Love or hate me I am memorable!
I need to thank you for reading this, please hear me when I say this, and can I ask that you say hi or something if you follow. or read this or get in touch.
As much as I love writing and sharing it can be hard and a struggle to share thoughts.
If you have a blog, or have a business, a dream, in work and want more in life, not in work and maybe seeking support,just drop me a line, I genuinely would love to connect with you and just share life.
My dad once asked me, “son what do you wanna do when you grow up?”
I replied “I just want to help people.”
Dad, I am afraid I still have not grown up. I still play on video games, only some earn me money these days, I am still as daft and careless and care free.
I have to give a big shout out to my dad, not that he follows me or is technical, not always the best father, (like me)but he is a great business man, a man of ethics and honour. I once asked him when I was “grown up”
“Dad, how can I have money and a family life?”
He said “son you cant have both?”
I chose to work part time and be there for my kids at a huge financial cost, brought stress to my relationship, but as a father I felt this was important and and friends say, wow, you do great things with your kids, you try really hard.
If I go on some sites I read how partners wished their partners did more with the kids, contributed more emotionally, did more around the house, was more supportive. I read this time and time again and it is heart breaking. I want to scream at the Dads…come on dad, there are dads that would love that opportunity…it makes me real mad, but then I also want to share with the women, that actually you think the way to out heart is through our stomach..partly,,but just as you like encouragement, strike our ego a little more, give us more praise for what we do do, instead of what we don’t do. We may not contribute in the same way, but maybe we contribute in the way we know, I mean who are our role models right! You want us to be more understanding….it works both ways. (I appreciate it is not always this black and white…trust me., but we are all a work in progress)
If you fancy a chat and need someone to listen, to mediate, let me help, I don’t even charge.
It is a known fact that money is one of the biggest issues in a relationship. You can read more about my life which I share on my personal blog.
I have nothing to sell, no product or anything like that, I just love people and take a genuine interest in others as it helps to take my mind away from my own problems – you know what I am talking about!
For the record I do believe you can have money and family life. I may not be there yet but I am working towards it and on the path to financial freedom.
Question – How good are you at keeping secrets or sharing?
For the last few weeks I have been focusing on making money rather than saving money.
That said, I was excited to deposit money at the end of this month I had been saving into 3 pots, a christmas saving pot, a charity box, and another saving pot.
You may not think this in itself is amazing, however having never saved before or having an emergency fund or rainy day pot, those who also struggle with saving will also think this is huge, and it is huge…
I have hit a wall with income streams, and trying to trickle more money while searching for, “the big money makers” and getting no where (or so it seems)
I really want to know the insider secrets but I don’t want to buy software that may or may not deliver, I don’t want to invest in stocks or bit coin that I can lose on, I want certainties, assurances, genuineness, and trust.
My dream is to work from home, internet, or writing or research but also helping people to realise their dreams and seeing them soar and I can’ t do this by myself, I need you!
In my own journey i’ve seen people excited at saving that works for them through something I shared, seeing peoples face light up when I teach them things or open their eyes to opportunities. This is what excites me.!
I have seen how the strategies I have learned have enabled me in just 2 months, to clear credit card debt, over draft debt, save, pay for a holiday, have spare spending money, get a bigger place to live, buy a new car, (still second hand but vast up grade)
I know that this is a drop in the ocean and just the start for me.
I am dedicated, I love to learn, and I persevere.
I thank you all who follow me as I love your blogs or looking at what you do, and would love to connect with entrepreneurs who are interested or already mentor others. You folk inspire me but also scare me as I wish I was as successful.
I believe in the “pay it forward” ideology, so if you have any tips or secrets you could share with those struggling or just setting out, would be amazing.
If you are reading this and it’s you who needs support, drop me a line, i’m a good listener and sounding board.
I like to challenge the idea of what is treasure and what is trash, and the excitement of discovering treasure. Many have made money from other peoples rubbish.
Imagine the treasure had your name on it and you had a map to it and you had a guide. If you had these would you be interested?
You may be thinking what is the treasure and is it worth it?
Your treasure may be different to my treasure, and there may be many different ways of getting it that will suit you best – but what is important is that you are looking out for things of value, whether it is something as simple empty toilet rolls or selling old coffee jars.
Try the research challenge of..Making money from (choose anything, or something you can see around you) you then using search engines or other methods find ways of making money through those avenues.
If you are “fedupofbeingpoor” this journey we will go on will make you view life differently, more hopeful, more positive, I have plans to prosper you, to give you a hope and a future, how do I know?
I have been there, I have been homeless, I have been on benefits, i have had to get food out of bins and skips.
I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.
Treasure hunting is about value, It is about discovering or re-discovering those things or perhaps people which are of value to us, including ourselves.
What if you are yourself are treasure?
Not many of us value ourselves and this can be hugely disabling to our mental health and also what we can achieve.
Maybe daily life or circumstances have ground us down, or maybe our self worth and self esteem is at its lowest and we are trying to cope.
Maybe on the outside we put on our “we are coping” face but inside we are secretly crying or screaming. You may have self esteem issues which makes life hard.
For me, I am constantly comparing myself to others. Let me share a story.
What do you think? Can you relate?
So if you could change this, would you? If you had someone to help you, would you?
You could be thinking any of the following:
Crock of poo! and do nothing – then you have lost nothing, but gained nothing.
Crock of poo! But be curious. – You lost nothing by checking this journey out, but have the chance to change your life – I am not talking get rich schemes, or scams or other BS things…just help, mentoring, strategies and connecting you with others that understand and can help.
Who cares? No one understands! – I CARE.. i HAVE BEEN THERE – I am still there, but my life has improved massively. Others care.
Be excited! – Great, because you can use this..This is your time!
Still not quite understanding treasure hunting? mail me.
The first step, let me tell you is mindset. I will write a separate blog about this, because I cannot tell you how important and a difference this makes.
If like me, any thought of hope or life improving is hard (and it is still a challenge) then you will know what I am talking about.
Is it time to de-clutter your life?
If you are thinking, where you live is messy, you never know what might turn up if you have a de-clutter and tidy up. You may even find treasure of your own or find things to sell that’s free money right there!
Perhaps you are seeking to make changes in your life? Curious? Want to know more?
Are You In?
Perhaps you are already successful and want to help others.